I’m not everyone’s type….

And I’m totally okay with it.

I’ve found it incredibly freeing to give myself permission to not be everyone’s type and to be okay with it. Just like everyone is not my type.

In my mind this isn’t a hit to my self-confidence or my image. Its similar to how I don’t like every vegetable or fruit. We have personal tastes. It can be complicated and yes, it brings into question if we are being shallow but I think attraction is a complicated issue.

Just because someone looks pleasing to me, doesn’t always mean I’m attracted to them. I can connect with them emotionally but I don’t have to force a physical attraction because it’s expected.

Its freeing to look at why you found someone appealing but equally freeing to find out what you find attractive about yourself.

Ask questions about yourself such as what do I like about me, what draws me to other people, what physical and mental characteristics appeal to me. This allows you to know more about yourself, and own your attraction. I know what I find attractive in people, but I also know that is not everything. It’s not just physical, but mental and emotional. When all of those boxes are ticked, its great. But they aren’t always going to be ticked for me or for the other person and that’s totally okay too.

It is not bad to not be someone’s “type” or to find out others aren’t physically attracted to you. Can it be hard to hear? Sometimes. Other times it takes allows for more freedom.

And instead of letting others determine your value. Determine your own. You are worth it. You are amazing and it’s totally okay not to be everyone’s type because attraction is not a super simple thing. Just look and be who you are. They like you or they don’t. No sweat off your back.

Stay fabulous! And more importantly stay you.